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That Time I Didn’t Listen to Any of my Own Advice

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Sometimes it is easier to give advice than to follow it. This includes your own hard-earned advice that you know, deep down, is correct. Emotions, especially in the horse world, can open a very big, very expensive, can of worms.

This is exactly what happened to us when we recently decided to buy a horse for my son.

Why did we buy a horse when we have Mo, our trusty leased gelding? Because according to our trainer Mo’s canter is too big for my son to learn on. And since we also wanted to ride together, getting a horse of our own while continuing to lease Mo seemed like a good idea.

Makes sense right?

Unfortunately, this is where everything started to go wrong.

First, we didn’t do any of the things that I know we should have done. We did not ride the horse. We did not do a PPE. We didn’t even meet the horse. I know this sounds so crazy. It is! But the horse was in West Virginia (we are at a horse barn in Milton, Vermont), and our trainer insisted all of these things would be a waste of money. She could tell from the video, she said, that he was a quality horse. And the trainer selling him assured her he was exactly what we wanted. (Turns out what we wanted vs. what our trainer wanted were very different things.)

Second, we ignored red flags. For instance, the person selling him had owned him for less than 2 years. That seemed like a relatively short amount of time to own a horse. No big deal, said our trainer. Then, the owner’s vet would not return our calls, and when we finally got a partial copy of the vet records there was a coffin joint injection in his medical history. These are all red flags that should have sent us running right there.

But our trainer insisted these things were no big deal. And I’m sorry to say that I trusted her. And we bought the horse.

Fast forward several weeks and what we have is not a calm family horse my son can ride. We have a fancy retired show horse that ONLY our trainer can ride, and that my son can only hop on after she’s ridden him and lunged him for at least an hour. He is wild on the lunge line so she is the only one who can lunge him. And of course, we are now paying extra for training ride and lunging sessions.

More than this, the gelding doesn’t like people. He is one of those horses that stands in the cross ties, visibly annoyed that you want to do anything with him, and that will turn around and nip at you if given the chance.

Our trainer keeps telling us how amazing he is and how my son will win in the show ring next year, but here’s the thing: he has only done one show, and while he did like it, our main goal in getting a horse was having an equine member of our family. Not showing. My horse friends tell me she probably pushed this horse so hard because he won several big titles in his younger years and she wants him and my son to win more titles for the barn next season.

And of course, since the gelding doesn’t like people, my son doesn’t like him. It’s a sad situation that could have been avoided if I had trusted my gut and gone through the process of checking all the boxes. We are most likely going to sell this horse.

So here is what I have learned:

  1. Do not skip over any of the steps in buying a horse, even if you think you have a trustworthy trainer. Even if you think this horse is the one. Do not skip the steps.
  2. Make sure you have a trainer who will put your interests first. I thought we had this, but now I am beginning to have my suspicions. (Edit: Turns out the trainer was not trustworthy.)
  3. Make sure your trainer will listen to what you want and that you have the same goals. For example, I specifically said we wanted a family horse that we could maybe do an occasional show with. But the horse we purchased was definitely a career show horse who was being sold because he was getting up there in years. The family friendly aspect was not a significant part of the equation.

I’m going to give it a few more weeks and see if perhaps we turn the corner. But I think we are going to be finding this guy a nice show home and will be looking for a better fit for our family in the near future. In the meantime, at least we have Mo! (Edit: Turns out, we didn’t.)

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